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[unkindled_madness]

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How does one celebrate an anniversary?

Are there gifts that have a particular meaning?

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( text | un: kyle.rayner )

[torchbearer]

What kind of anniversary?

I guess you can't go wrong with flowers and a gift, taking them someplace nice.

[unkindled_madness]

The affirmation of a friendship.

What is he meant to do with flowers?

[torchbearer]

Wait, so this isn't a romantic thing?

[ do people celebrate friendship anniversaries?? is this a gen z thing. ]

Well, if you take the time to pick the flowers and the meaning, it can be thoughtful. Plus, they can be decorative for the home. Or maybe food? Chocolates, wine, stuff like that.

[unkindled_madness]

Not in any traditional sense.

How does one give a flower meaning?

[torchbearer]

[ ah. hm. who is going to tell this guy? not kyle. ]

Flowers have inherent meaning. There's a language of flowers. You can probably find a lot of stuff with an internet search.

[unkindled_madness]

If it's established, then I'm sure there are books on the subject.

[torchbearer]

Probably. It's pretty old.

[unkindled_madness]

Is it? That's good then.

[torchbearer]

But the best advice is probably do something they'd like. Show them you listen and pay attention to their interests and celebrate that.

[unkindled_madness]

That is the purpose of my inquiries. He finds more meaning in things.

[torchbearer]

So you probably already know. What he likes best and all that. Just give him that.

[unkindled_madness]

Nothing particular is expected?

[torchbearer]

Well, it should be a step beyond the stuff you usually do. To make it special.

[unkindled_madness]

That's what I thought.

Does it need to be a step beyond what he does, or only what I do?

[torchbearer]

What does he usually do?

[unkindled_madness]

That's private.

But he is very experienced with outings and gifts.

[torchbearer]

[ and they were . . . still calling each other friends? that poor guy. ]

Okay. I don't think he'd want you to copy him.

But to put in the effort he does. Match that sentiment, not the content.

[unkindled_madness]

[Wow, friendship is meaningful!!]

That does give me some idea.

Thank you.

[torchbearer]

You're welcome.

text | un: amaterasu

[gooddoggoddog]

Can't go wrong with cake.

[unkindled_madness]

[Just... cake?]

I suppose that could be a part of it.

[gooddoggoddog]

I have just discovered that there is cake made with ice cream, too.

[unkindled_madness]

Are they not fundamentally different foods?

[gooddoggoddog]

I think they just layer the ice cream and cake after the cake is baked.

[unkindled_madness]

I see.

In your opinion, does this improve the cake?

text | UN: MayukoShiraki

[welcome_summer]

For anniversaries? You could go visit someplace significant to the two of you. Or go out to eat at a restaurant somewhere. Even making something fancy to eat at home together can be special.

It's really like an amplified version of a date, is how I would explain it.

[unkindled_madness]

I think a meal would be better if I did not make it myself.

I am not terribly familiar with dates.

[welcome_summer]

kay, not cooking at home then. a meal at a restaurant is a common enough element.

Wwwwwhat sorts of leisure activities have you done together?

[unkindled_madness]

Is it necessary for you to know that?

[welcome_summer]

No, of course not, but revisiting them is a chance to build upon prior good feeling.

Trying something new can be exciting but... well, it might present unanticipated unknown variables for one or both of you. Some variables you can laugh or shrug off, might be unimportant to what was gained overall. Hopefully none that could ruin a night.

[unkindled_madness]

So you think it may be appropriate to reference the memory of an earlier encounter?

[welcome_summer]

Definitely for positive associations. People do like being remembered fondly.

[unkindled_madness]

I believe that's the entire point of the endeavor.

Text | U/N: RankedSixth

[sixthdeadliest]

The anniversary of what? It seems like certain gifts wouldn't be appropriate for all occasions.

[unkindled_madness]

It is for a relationship.

[sixthdeadliest]

Romantic?

[unkindled_madness]

Significant.

[sixthdeadliest]

Maybe something they'd find useful.

[Six, that's your answer for every gift.]

[unkindled_madness]

I believe he could purchase or conjure most things he might require.

[sixthdeadliest]

In the moment, maybe, but give something he could find useful at a later date so he wouldn't need to do either. Like emergency supplies or tools.

[unkindled_madness]

In the event he loses access to his magic?

The implication seems a bit dire.

dn: Otto Octavius | text

[doctopoda]

There are traditional anniversary gifts, but that's a little bit old-fashioned. And really meant for married couples.

[Which he is assuming you are not, although also he doesn't really know you particularly well?]

[unkindled_madness]

[They were, briefly? Sort of? It's weird.]

A nontraditional application of something traditional may not be a terrible idea.

[doctopoda]

The first anniversary is paper.

They're all like that - themes, or materials. The ones everybody knows are the silver and gold anniversaries: 25th and 50th.
You're supposed to eat the top of your wedding cake on the first anniversary too, if you kept it.

[unkindled_madness]

As in, something made of paper? A book, perhaps.

Cake has been suggested in general, although eating a year-old cake is neither possible nor does it seem advisable.

[doctopoda]

It's fine if you freeze it.

But yes, like a book. It doesn't need to be a novel or anything like that, if you aren't sure what to pick - it could be something like a sketchbook or journal.

[unkindled_madness]

I do work in a library. But I suppose one has to consider what message to convey.

[doctopoda]

You would know best, I'm sure.

[For librarian reasons, sure, but mostly because he knows his own relationship!]

[unkindled_madness]

My experience with gifts is limited. I want it to suggest a lasting bond.